I am new to self-coaching scholars and I must admit that doing this work isn’t easy especially given that I have been thinking the way I have most of my life. I am struggling with the intentional model because my mind immediately doubts that I can believe the new thought. I also find it difficult not to get triggered when someone gets defensive, accusatory or raise their voice when they are angry. Obviously in that moment we’re not going to do a model but how does one work through triggers? For instance, how do we feel the feelings and be ok with it without reacting poorly?