Hi coaches,

I find it difficult when my stepdaughter (14 years old) comes for the week-end. She has stolen things from our house, lies very often, and has hurt physically my children twice.
How can I deal with this situation? I tried to make a model. Could you help me and give me some feedback?

Unintentional model:
C: my stepdaughter comes for the week-end
T: I can’t trust her
F: resentful
A: I don’t talk her very much
R: my week-end is ruined

Intentional model:
C: my stepdaughter comes for the week-end
T: (No idea)
F: relaxed
A: I can communicate with her
R: I spend a good time

How can I actually believe that I can have a good time with her, knowing that she can hurt physically my children? I don’t know what thought to choose in order to feel relaxed.
Thank you!!!