Hi Brooke,

I don’t trust the guy I’m dating anymore. I don’t feel safe being close to him because he frequently says one thing and does another. I have been feeling disappointed and hurt with a desire to withdraw. I have been doing so much thought work, reminding myself that he can do whatever the hell he wants. Also, when my actions aren’t in line with his manual for me, he says contratictory things or goes AWOL. I am emotionally exhausted.

I don’t know how to have an intimate relationship with someone without trust, but trust is an expectation.

Could this be a boundary violation?

Should I end this relationship? Maybe I will meet someone who is consistent in thought and action of his own accord.