Trust in a marriage

My husband and I have been struggling with multiple issues for months now. I found out today about another instance in which he had not been honest with me. Ive always thought I had “standards” about honesty in my marriage and that being lied to was something I wouldn’t find acceptable in my marriage.

I have done alot of work on myself and recognizing that I only have control over myself and my thoughts, actions and reactions.

Knowing I cant control him or what he chooses to do how do I begin to work on discovering what is best for me and my kids in this situation?

Thank you