Two models or buffering?

I often get really angry at my husband because I feel that he deliberately takes a really long time getting ready in the mornings so that he can lock himself away and escape helping me to look after our children.

I did a thought download around this and as well as the thoughts that cause me anger I also had thoughts like “I need help” and “I want to feel supported” that caused a feeling of loneliness.

I wondered if I have two models going on at the same time, or perhaps if the angry thoughts are a way of buffering against the loneliness? The thoughts leading to loneliness were a bit of a surprise when I did the thought download – I wasn’t aware that I was thinking them.