Unconditional Love and Relationship

C: Boyfriend is building his website for his business. He currently doesn’t have a job. He said: “Who am I kidding? I sell a couple of things on a website.”
T: I need to find my way out of this relationship.
F: Discouraged
A: I am getting afraid, I am cold, I question my plan to see him, I don’t work on my own business, I worry about his
R: I end the relationship?

I was labeling myself that I am not capable of unconditional love. I love him unconditionally as a person, but when he is fearful and discouraged, I don’t feel attracted to him. I am confused about the relationship, manual and unconditional love.
I love him, but I also have some standards for a person I want to be in a relationship with. I know love, being discouraged, and afraid are from my thoughts. I don’t know how to feel better about all of this or how to show up.