Unreciprocated Desire


In the Model Call on Monday you had a few questions dealing with unrequited desire. As part of your discussion you stated that the people asking the questions on this topic needed to run models to determine why they feel desire for someone who is not interested in them. This has been a pervasive issue for me for as long as I can remember, but I REALLY struggle with coming up with the thought that creates the feeling of desire. I one hundred percent relate to your analogy about standing in front of the train and want to be the person that recognizes if the train does not stop at my station, then it isn’t my train.

I have been doing a lot of self-work about recognizing that I am enough and worthy just as I am, but that work still leaves me coming up short when trying to identify the thought that I am thinking that leads to this unreciprocated desire. Can you give a few examples of thoughts that lead to this feeling, so I can get a little perspective?

Thank you in advance.