Over the past few weeks I have found myself calling others after a meeting to “gossip” under the guise of debriefing about the meeting. I believe this can erode my opinion of myself and integrity over time. I was going to add others’ opinions of me but that’s going into their model correct? At any rate it is a behavior that does not serve me. I put it in the model and would like feedback.
C: CEO made remarks on a topic
T : “What a bunch of BS!”
F : Judgmental
A : called co-worker after meeting to express derogatory remarks about what person said. Continue in my head which allows me to feel superior. Don’t show up in a constructive way to add to the solution if there was an issue needing solving. Close myself off from interactions between me and the CEO. Don’t seek to understand.
R – My integrity suffers (behaving in a way that is counter to principles)
Thoughts? I keep wanting to go into others’ models and how my relationship with them may suffer if gossiping continues. Thank you!!!