Urge Anger – am I accidentally resisting?

Sometimes when I get an urge, I am pretty sure I am allowing it, but part of my response to allowing it tends to be anger. Not exactly that I’m angry I “can’t” have it – I think it’s more of the revealing the 50/50 of my life to myself. But I want to make sure this anger isn’t actually resistance… I try to do deep breaths with it to ensure I’m really feeling and allowing the urge, but I tend to get mad about it. Am I doing this correctly? Is it just my toddler/primitive brain having the tantrum? I hope so! Thank you (for everything).