Using "old programming" concept in a model with old thoughts and feelings as circumstance


Thank you for the quick reply to my question about providing a rental reference for an ex-boyfriend/ex-tenant who did not pay his rent on time. I was playing around with models with the “old programming” concept. I found the thought “this is just old programming” applied to the thoughts and feelings coming up very helpful. They immediately lost power over me. I felt free of them, a perfect feeling for Independence Day!

My question is: does it make sense to treat certain thoughts and feelings that arise as a circumstance in my life, and put them in the model there? So that I can plug in “old programming” in the thought line to move forward?

Is ruminating over the past and thinking that I need to process past memories a form of indulgent thought, like an indulgent emotion? Because the models look similar to models I’ve done around indulgent emotions like overwhelm:

C: memories and feelings about a past relationship arise
T: these are very meaningful, I better explore them and process them
F: regret
A: focus on the past by writing about it, talking about it, asking a coach about it, maybe even making decisions that perpetuate the negative feelings (like engaging in communications with the ex-tenant)
R: stuck in the past, don’t move forward on what I’m trying to bring into being

Instead, if I plug a thought about “old programming” into the model I get this:

C: memories and feelings about a past relationship arise
T: these thoughts and feelings are just old programming, no need to spend a lot of time with them
F: optimism
A: look to my future, take action on the things I want to bring into being
R: move forward in my life

Do my thoughts and feelings always need to go in the T and F lines? It feels useful to treat them as circumstance sometimes.