Hey Brooke!
My boyfriend plays hours and hours of video games. When we first started dating this wasn’t a part of his life however now he spends a lot of his time doing this. My own opinion is that video games is a type of buffering… ? Is that not true?
Anyways, I’ve had a hard time dealing with the video game stuff so here are the models I’ve created to try and help. Would you please give me any insight? After listening to you coach the woman yesterday about her crazy ex wife drama I’m thinking leaving the relationship doesn’t make sense since I would probably find someone else that likes to do something else that takes up a lot of their time like fantasy football or something.
Unintentional –
C: Boyfriend didn’t text me last night
T: He’s too busy playing video games with other people so I’m not a priority
F: Sad, unloved
A: Act distant, don’t talk to him, get upset
R: Less time w/ him, more isolation and loneliness
Intentional –
C: Boyfriend didn’t text me last night
T: He’s spending time doing something that brings him joy
F: content
A: Inaction
R: Same relationship
Unintentional –
C: Boyfriend spends hours playing video games w/ other people
T: he will want to be w/ the girls he plays video games with instead of me, he prefers to spend his time with them
F: unloved, sad, anxious
A: get upset w/ him for playing video games
R: fighting, less time together, even more time spent playing video games
Intentional –
C: Boyfriend spends hours playing video games w/ other people
T: He is just interacting w/ other people with similar interests but he still chooses me at the end of the day
F: loved
A: act loving towards him
R: happy relationship
Unintentional –
C: Boyfriend spends hours playing video games
T: He likes to play video games more than spend time with me
F: Sad, unloved
A: pick fights
R: Unhappy boyfriend who plays even more video games
Intentional –
C: Boyfriend spends hours playing video games
T: He just enjoys this like how I enjoy reading and listening to podcasts, this now allows me to have more free time to do what I enjoy
F: content, excited to read and listen to podcasts
A: work on my business, listen to podcasts, read
R: same relationship, business flourishes
Any insight you can provide is much appreciated! Thank you so much for all you do!
With love and positive vibes,
Totally not a video game person lol