Want Match

I listened to Brooke’s podcast about Want Match, and I did some coaching on this today. I’ve been married for 11 years.
I made a list of all the things I would WANT from a “Dream Husband”. There are many things on the list that are not a Want Match for my husband.
But I noticed that they used to be Want Matches for him. When my husband and I were first dating and married, in the first few of years, he was a Want Match for all of the things on my list – which is why I married him! (People said we were silly and naive to get married at ages 19 & 22 but we knew it was right for us!)
But in the past years, he has changed, his wants have changed, he says his attraction/connection/desire towards me have changed.
How can I coach myself through this? I am committed to the marriage.