Want Match

I listened to Brooke’s recent podcast and it left me feeling so worried about my marriage. In our marriage there are so many mismatches. I’ve I have been working so hard on just loving my partner for who they are but there are so many issues we can never discuss because the differences we have are vast. We have differing beliefs on parenting, money, spending time with extended families, intimacy. I’m just confused now , should I be just loving them for who they are or should I be looking for a partner I have more want matches with?