I am getting divorced. My my husband filed after having an affair(s). I still have the thought “I don’t want to get divorced.” I wish I could figure out a way to change his mind. So my model is:
C = divorce
T = I don’t want to get divorced (I want the old relationship).
A = think about how I want the old relationship, avoid doing things needed in divorce, not doing a good job with divorce tasks or other tasks, hating life
R = I am not accepting reality?
Do I have to start telling myself I like something I don’t?