UM/
C: BFF didn’t ask me any questions about myself this morning when we spent 1.5 hours together
T: “We’re not close friends anymore”
F: hurt
A: ruminate and look for evidence that she doesn’t care about me or my life right now, re-run conversation in my head, tell husband about the conversation, repeatedly think about eating candy, tell myself that we might not be close friends anymore, look for evidence that everyone is abandoning me, tell myself I should prepare for the friendship to end
R: I don’t feel close to her

IM/
C: visit with BFF this morning
T: I don’t know what is going on with my friend and that’s OK
F: accepting
A: don’t mindread, don’t look for evidence, don’t buffer
R: I’m OK

Input welcome 🙂