What does being the best version of yourself to support your partner look like?

Your thoughts create your feelings and that’s great!!! Not everyone knows nor subscribes to that reality.

I care about my partner and want to be the best version of myself for her.

My partner suffers from anxiety and insecurities and we often get into spats when I say something the “wrong way” or don’t say anything at all. It typically falls into the form of
1. This thing happened and you didn’t ask me about it the next day
2. I was telling you about this and you didn’t say anything so I walked away

We spoken about in the past and she says she’s scared to talk to me or ask me and just stays silent. Unfortunately I hear about instances of these incidents when we have a fight.

Can you give me some ideas on what being the best version of myself looks like to someone who is easily offended by the things I am doing or not doing?

I’m not sure how to handle this.