What Others Think of Us

This is from page 128 of Brooke’s book “Self Coaching 101”: “When you watch what you are saying at work, are you trying to convince yourself that you can control what they think of you by what you say? Is there any part of you that thinks you can control them?”

My answer is ‘Yes. There is still a part of me that believes that.’ It does seem like we can control or at least influence what others think of us.

Please help me to fully grasp the concept that we cannot. Thank you.