What thought to put in the T line about my husband?


I am struggling with negative thoughts and feelings about my relationship with my husband. My experience in the relationship is that he shuts me down a lot, doesn’t know how to have positive conversations, and that we don’t really have a lot in common. I’m very aware that I can’t expect him to be more positive when I’m struggling to be positive myself, and I sometimes wonder if I’m capable of being in a normal relationship that I can just appreciate and enjoy or if I don’t have those skills because I grew up in a dysfunctional home.
Here is a model I did on the current situation:

C – Husband comes home
T – He’s going to want my attention
F – Shut down/annoyed
A – Act shut down
R – Disconnection from husband

I’m working on a model that gets me to where I want to be, but I’m struggling with the T line. I really don’t know what people who are excited to see their husbands when they come home think, but here’s what I have so far:

C- Husband comes home
T – ??
F – Excited
A – Give him my attention/smile/hug/kiss
R – Feel connected to husband

Any suggestions for the T?