Hi Brooke

My question is about dealing with relationships. My sister has been unhappy in hers for some time and confided that she wanted to leave. She stayed and I now want her to leave for her own happiness- there’s lots of detail around this, but perhaps that’s irrelevant in terms of doing my own work? I keep thinking about it and really want what’s best for her. I have had issues with her partner in the past and don’t really like him either.

Here’s one of the models
C my sister
T she needs to make a decision/move. She is paralysed by indecision
F frustrated
A push her ( energetically)but try not to say too muchm
R she doesn’t do anything. Perhaps she feels pressured by me. Disconnect in our relationship.

C my sister
T she’s exactly where she’s meant to be
F compassionate, understanding
A support her whatever her choices
R our relationship stronger

In this second model, could you suggest a different thought- this one sits ok with me, but it’s like I need more logical reasoning around it, to help me believe it. I worked it around how I want to feel understanding and supportive about the C.

Thanks for any thoughts