What’s the benchmark that I’ve done my work, I’m clean, and I can, with emotional maturity, say “Thanks for the things that we shared. This isn’t right. It’s time to go.” And leave a relationship – in this case, the marriage I’m in.

I’m 100% in on doing my work and being responsible for myself. I’m willing to experience any emotion. I’m willing to fail. I’m willing to let down all defenses and just be. I’m willing to see where I’m responsible and to BE responsible for my part. I know I’ve got more thoughts to work out around my spouse and our relationship and am working out the time and finances to schedule a 6 week coaching series to deal with my thoughts. I’m in for all that. I’m not afraid, and if I am afraid, I’ve got the courage to stay with it.

As I do this, the same questions keep coming up that eventually take me here. What’s the benchmark? What’s the difference between “I’m going” but I’ve still got work to do, and “I’m going” and it’s coming from emotional maturity, health and abundant personal responsibility?