I’m not quite understanding how to set boundries in a relationship. With a parent, friend, significant other, if no matter what they do I choose not to be angry, upset, or hurt, do I just become a doormap to anything they throw at me? If everytime I visit my mother she comments negatively about my appearence, but I think I look great, it won’t upset me so I just allow the negative comments to continue? If my boyfriend is cheating in me, I can see it comes from his insecurities and desire for unlimited attention to few better about himself, I dont fault myself or let it make me feel bad about myself, and just sit back while he philanders? This is where my confusion comes in… in keeping my thoughts from being negative, how do I still protect myself from being disrespected or abused?