When to leave / change the C

Hello 🙂

So obviously the teaching is that other people do not cause our thoughts and feelings, and that we can (if we want to) manage our minds to be happy in any situation. Which I love.

But I’ve been trying to get my head around the idea of knowing when to change the C if we can be happy with any C.

So for example, if you’re in a relationship with someone and there’s things you don’t like / enjoy about the relationship – what does it look like to do thought work and take responsibility for your own emotions but still choose to leave from a clean place?

For example, if I got to a place where I understood that it’s my thoughts that cause my feelings, not my partner and take ownership of that. And then decide I might want a partner who’s different – not to make me happier – but out of preference (e.g. I would like to choose a partner that I have more in common with). Is that on the right lines?