Why not be a victim?


Hi Brooke – I’m used to hearing that playing the victim is bad/unhealthy/unhelpful, but as I’m doing my models I’m realizing I’m having trouble with WHY I shouldn’t play the victim. It gives me a lot of benefits. It comforts me, gains me sympathy – and therefore manipulative power- from others, makes me feel better about my life, and gets me attention when I feel lonely. Whenever I notice victimhood popping up in my unintentional thought models, I have a hard time desiring whatever positive feeling in the intentional model OVER the comfort of removing some responsibility via feeling victimized. Obviously playing the victim isn’t helping me be the person that I want which is why I’m in Scholars, but I guess my verrry basic question is: Why is victim mentality harmful? Thanks-