Withholding feelings

Hi Brooke
I just read the Relationships booklet and can’t wait for the month ahead.
I have a curly relationship I wanted to run by you. I have feelings for another man other than my husband and, feeling guilty for this, reduced contact with him significantly around 8 months ago.
The feelings are still there and I’m attracted to him when I see him occasionally. I have been trying through my thoughts to ‘get over him’ but after reading your booklet, I’m a bit confused as to whether I should stop trying to withhold these feelings (not directly to him, but in my mind) and just accept I am feeling this way? Not sure!