woman physically abused

Help me out on the last live call that you had….
You mentioned to the woman that during the time of actual physical abuse, she should be mad (she shouldn’t be mad now). Can you explain this?

I’m working out in my head how to think about this….we are not questioning what her parents did was wrong and unacceptable (my opinion and not fact), but we are questioning what she is still making it mean today. When there is a “bad” past event, what are some of the thoughts that you have found helpful for clients? Nothing has gone wrong here….everything happens for me??? Thanks! kw