Worried about son’s negative attitude and health

How can you be loving and supportive and not feel anxious and fearful about your son’s happiness?

C – Son is negative and unhealthy won’t seek help
T – I love my son and don’t know how to help him
F – Worried and Anxious
A – Cause my own health problems through my own worry or offer suggestions which causes him to get angry
R – A reduction in my own happiness

I want to feel – At Peace, Happy, or Proud
Thought – ??? I am there for my son
A – I want to offer suggestions

My thoughts keep leading me to want to offer suggestions to him which causes him to get angry