Worthy Fails vs. Escape Fails

Hi Brook,

I’m trying to set a goal for next year. I joined scholars originally to stop overdrinking and basically improve my mental health. To make more money, become an entrepeneur, etc. was not at all my purpose. To set an impossible drinking goal would not be useful for me because it would be telling myself that “it’s impossible to reduce my alcohol consumption”. Which I already have tremendously. In the past, I could never imagine it but now I can. Yes, I would love to have more money for our family and I have considered becoming a coach. I don’t want to put “Becoming a life coach” as an impossible goal because I don’t think it’s THAT impossible. Also, making $100K/year would be an impossible goal for me but I would be using many many “escape fails” because I don’t even have a plan in place, a thought about how I would make it (maybe coaching), etc. I don’t think it would be a realistic “impossible” goal if you see what I mean because I would be using a lot of “escape fails”. Becoming a more organized, planned person “could” possibly be an impossible goal for me but honestly, with a great deal of effort, I don’t think it’s that “impossible”. I guess I’m having confusion as to what to ultimately be my realistic “impossible” goal. Could it be becoming coach AND making $100K? I thoroughly understand the concept of failing, and failing again. I had a horrible experience with a nutritional MLM company a few years ago, despite taking every action possible but ultimately I’ve learned a great deal about people and who to really trust. Plus I did not have extreme 100% belief in the product. Basically, I want to develop an impossible goal and be able to do “worth fails” and not escape fails. Any ideas. I feel like I’m confusing myself now.