How do I use the model to solve my problem of finding a life partner?


Hi Brooke,
My deepest desire is to have a (suitable) life partner and companion. I am currently in a bad marriage, which I foresee will come to an end in the next few years. I have been living as if I am single for many years now as my husband and I have been totally disconnected for the last 7 years. I am financially dependent on him which is why I am unable to leave the marriage right now.
I know it sounds crazy that I am asking about finding a partner when I am already married, however as I mentioned before, I live like a single person. I have spent the last 7 years working on my own self development and am more than ready to meet a partner – have been for a long time now. And I think ‘What The Heck’ – I know lots of couples that met each other when one or both of them were married – why can’t that happen for me?!

So my frustration comes about by the Circumstance that I have no life partner and that I have no control over whether I meet someone or not. I can join social clubs, attend social events and put myself out there as much as I want, but at the end of the day I have no control over whether I meet a suitable companion.
I have lost around 20 pounds using the tools and information I have learnt from you, and I’ve achieved that because it’s something that I have control over. (Thank you for teaching me that – a million times Thank You!)
It’s something that I’ve been able to do for myself and is one of my greatest achievements of my life, if not the greatest. It’s a gift I’ve given to myself, and I like to say it’s a gift that keeps on giving – every time I look in the mirror and every time I put my clothes on.
When it comes to finding a mate, however, it doesn’t quite work like that. Finding a mate is not something I have control over. I realise that my thoughts about finding a mate are what I can control, however being human means I am hardwired for love and connection and belonging, and no amount of thought work can make that go away.
Which brings me back to my original question – can I solve this situation using the model?
Thanks Brooke & so much love to you xxx