I have been managing my husband manual and I have come so far!! I am even planning travel without him and it is perfectly fine.
Old Model
C My husband spends time on his computer
T He should look at me and engage with me when we are together after work. This is disrespectful and insulting. He shouldn’t spend his evening chatting with strangers on the internet when I am right here
F ignored, annoyed, frustrated, unloved
A complain
R marital discord

Vs Now
C- husband on computer
T- there he is again, on the computer, all night long.
F- bemused resignation
A – read books, do journaling, go to exercise class, food prep
R- I am getting a lot done on my own and that is awesome, he is available to be loved as he is