Action and Results distinction

I have been practicing the model for 3 days and at times I find it difficult to come up with the action and result. Example: If I’m jealous of my friends relationship with her grandson, I don’t react negatively towards my friend. I have negative thoughts that cause me to feel jealous, but those thoughts don’t result in me treating my friend in a negative way. When my friend talks about her grandson, I am happy for her. The jealousy comes from the thought “I wish I had the same opportunities with my grandkids”.

My question is, what is my action and result?