Arguing with partner about where to live next


Hi, I would like to move and live in my home country. Every time I bring the subject to my partner this creates conflict. I have run a model and would love your help to see clearer and have discovered two major thoughts that seem to block me: I have fewer constraints than he does if we go back and He sacrificed more than me at the beginning when we moved to that country.

C: Partner says: “Going back home is fine, but to do what job-wise?”
T: Would be more useful to explore opportunities
F: resigned
A: Judge my partner negatively, do not take other actions, close discussion, tell myself it will happen eventually
R: Give power to partner to make repatriation happen