Hi Brooke,
Through my goal work I have uncovered that I have a need to control outcomes, people and situations in my life. This need must be based on fear. What are your thoughts about control. Here is an attempt to model it. Thanks for insights as always.
C Life
T If I don’t control everything I will fail or we will fail
F the realization feels desperate, terrible and hard work
A Control money, food, outcomes and relationships
R In terms of goals or success I confine myself to what I think I can control. In terms of people put pressure on my relationship.

C Life
T I can only have control over my thoughts
F I understand this but cannot connect with the emotion
A Do thought work
R Give up having the need to be in control [Ummm how do I do that]