I like doing the models and love getting to know more about how all our thoughts leads to our feelings and how it is possible to control feelings, actions and results.

It really does work, I need some help in some of the thoughts I have about my husband.

C -Not possible to see the garage floor since floor is covered with papers, empty boxes and trash.
T – He has problems, it is disgusting
F – Irritated, overwhelmed.
A – nag him,
R – I Keep feeling irritated and bothered. He is irritated and bothered.

C -Not possible to see the garage floor since floor is covered with papers, empty boxes and trash.
T – He will not change, I need to change.
F – Feeling good and in charge of my space.
A – Claim part of the garage as mine.
R – I have my own space, I feel good.

The thing is that even thou it does take away  the thought that lead to irritation and overwhelm it leads to me liking my husband less. Almost as if I am separating myself from him, taking action and charge of the situation so that I feel good and have space to do work. I realize I do not really want to change my thought that it is ok to have a “what is for me” a messy, dirty garage” I feel I can stand by my thought and like that I think that way. It serves me cause I thrive in spaces that are clean and organized and I am not willing to change my thought. but then the model is kind of like this.

C -I came part of the garage as mine and I keep it as neat as I want to. I let go of trying to change my husbands way.
T -I like my space, I let go of husbands mess.
F – Feeling good and free from husband
A – feel powerful
R – I am happy but I have created a division between husband and myself.

I think I am all over the place, can you please tell me what I am doing right and wrong.