Double standards

I have double standards. When my loved ones have a request for me or need my attention when I am doing something, I get frustrated for being interrupted and just simply for having to spend my time helping or answering their questions. However, when I want something from my loved ones, they “have to do it immediately.” If they don’t do what I ask/tell them to do right that second, I get mad and yell at them. I realized that it’s not fair, but still continue doing it and then get mad at myself for ding it to them. That’s not how I want to feel and show up. I want to be loving, kind, and patient. But how? What can I be thinking?