Help managing relationship with teenage daughter


My 16-year-old daughter freaks out often on my family as she says she is so anxious and can’t handle us talking/eating/essentially doing anything around us.

She is happy as can be at work/school/with friends. I am trying to create a model that helps me coexist and not be mad or walking on eggshells. I don’t know what to do.

C: Daughter is crying. She can’t handle being around us.
T: She is so dramatic/emotional and makes our lives chaotic.
F: Frustration that she can enjoy being part of our family
A:  be mad at her, minimize family interactions
R: she is less a part of our family’s day-to-day lives

I don’t like this result as I love my daughter and want her to feel like a part of the family as the rest of us. However, there need to be consequences for her wild and hurtful behaviors. Perhaps this is too vague, and I can happily clarify. I just need help on how to go on. Thanks.