Hi Brooke,

One of the things I am working on is eliminating gossiping from my life. I view it as “junk food” conversation and think it can play the same role as other things I use to buffer. I think I use it to buffer from feeling vulnerable or insecure in certain relationships with other women. I am struggling to eliminate it completely and am also having trouble with a model on it. Here is the model I am working on:

C: conversation with a friend about another friend
T: I should not have done that
F: ashamed
A: Avoidance of myself; not looking at my motivations
R: More likely to gossip again

C: conversation with a friend about another friend
T: I am capable of higher level connections
F: confidence
A: Refrain from or redirect gossip
R: Higher level connections

My problem is, I don’t 100% believe my new T even though I do have evidence for it in many of my interactions.

Any insights welcome!
Michele