holding the space (VG)

Hi Brooke!
I’d love your advice on the following:
Im a life and weigh coach. I suppose Im not holding the space with my clients. Im having trouble managing the intensity of my emotions. It hurts when I see a client strugging and “not getting it” (according to my manual of course) I am always afraid Im not doing enough and fret about what I should tell them… what might be the magic phrase I should say that breaks their barriers. As Im writing Im noticing my own manual and would love to know if this is something that other coaches experience too
Thanks a lot to you and your team and as I said before I love this amazing pogramme and want to be in it 100 per cent :):)