I am having a lot of negativity and emotional childhood. I am thinking my husband is a responsible adult who should participate in household chores. When he does the chores, they are are often not done in a way that is practical for our family.

C: His ideas of doing tasks around the house is completely different than mine.
T: I make this mean that he does not care about the tasks or me.
F: I feel angry and upset.
A: I get resentful of having to do the tasks myself (because they are important to me).
R: Result is more distance and negativity in our relationship. Less interest from Josh in helping to take care of things around the house.

I need some help reworking this model.
BTW this is the second time I have written about my expectations of other people.