Husband gets scary angry with the kids…

My husband doesn’t handle stress well, he has an anxiety disorder and is pretty depressed. Sometimes he goes way overboard when dealing with our kids two boys age 4 and 3. His expectations are way too high in my opinion and frequently puts the 3 year old in time out for what I think is pretty typical 3 year old behavior—talking loudly, dumping things out, etc.

He also expects them to sit quietly in time out—not talk or cry. And sometimes he holds them a little too tight to keep them in time out or punches fingers.

I think it’s all somewhat bad parenting, but I’m sure it’s how he was patented. I don’t want to say much about it because I hate his sulking… but I don’t feel good about not saying anything when he’s overreacting and hurting the kids.