Husbands Addictions and Worry For Me

My husband has several addictions that are affecting his health in a serious way.

He is overeating while impaired which results in weight gain which results in sleep apnea which results in my anxiety of waking up with him not breathing. He buffers everything in his life and although he is trying to address the weight and apnea he refuses to acknowledge the chemical he is putting in his body is the main cause.

I don’t know how to give up trying to control him because I love him and want him to be healthy.

How do I focus on me when my soulmate is in trouble. How do you love and feel scared and do nothing?