“I can’t trust” belief.

I realized I have been choosing to believe “I can’t trust him” with my husband in our relationship for the past 15years. I looked at the model and cried at what I had created in a result of that belief. I am happy I have discovered it and am now ready to believe “of course I trust him”, “I trust him no matter what”.

How do we go from believing we can’t trust someone to we can trust them no matter what?

Part of me is hesitant to trust because I would feel embarrassed for trusting him if “he broke my trust” again.

I think I make “he broke my trust” mean – he said he was going to do something and didn’t.

Any tips would be great! Thank you so much.