I don’t think I’m properly allowing an urge

I have the urge jar and started putting a bead in the jar every day that I followed the protocol exactly – I quickly got “LAX” about it and find reasons to not follow it exactly – like last night – I finish everything on protocol – yet I grabbed more nuts, a pickle, some carrots – I’m not hungry – so I’m not really allowing urges…but my brain is sneaky- it says “well it’s healthy” “it’s not really giving in to an urge” “I don’t want to feel deprived” “its no big deal”.

Then I worry and wonder this whole time I’ve been working with the urge jar I’m still not really feeling my feelings…how do I get over this discouragement that I’ve made no progress?