I have a manual for my husband and don’t know how to drop it

I recently discovered that I had a manual for my husband. I thought I didn’t have one, our relationship was so fantastic (my thoughts about it in fact!). But I just realized today that I was pissed off at him because I think he could work more and put at least same amount of efforts in his business that I do in mine. I think he does not care about making money and I don’t like it. I am disappointed at him.
I know all these are thoughts and I am having a manual for how my husband should act and be to please me.
I love him and want to drop this manual but I don’t know how to do it. It is so much easier to see it from the outside…