I never "like my reason"

Hi there, what if I never “like my reason” behind my action/decision? Brooke has talked often about when we decide something/decide to take action we need to like our reason. I feel like I rarely like my reason. And the times I do like my reason feel strong and confident and want to stand firm, when I’m faced with an angry spouse I lose the strength of my reason and it devolves into an argument quickly. I can always “see” the other side to the argument, I have always been really good at being able to see both sides and having that ability sometimes makes me lose trust/confidence/faith that my reason is the one I want to have. What can I do about this other than thought downloads? Are there thoughts that are missing that I am not seeing in the moment? Thank you!