Inadequate and deficient

Yesterday I had a coaching call, and my coach pointed out the reason I’m not making a decision is because of how I will treat myself no matter which one I choose. I finally was ready to sit down and work through some models(I’ve been avoiding this for a couple months now). I found many examples in my life where I make it mean that I’m not good enough, I’m not doing a good enough job, that there’s something wrong with me. And how I’ve continued to try change external circumstances in order to feel better. With recognizing these thoughts, I feel that lightening feeling in my chest and my brain. Where do I go from here?