Lost it on my husband…

I freaked out today when I found out that my husband threw away a shopping receipt for shoes I wanted to exchange.
I know it is trivial, but it just set me into a rage. He has done that in the past (throwing things away without asking me first), and keeps doing it.
I feel I have not learned anything in Scholars as I just got into this emotional turmoil and started shouting at him without helping myself or processing my emotions. Of course, the result was catastrophic not only on my husband but also on myself with lots of self-loathing and dark thoughts… It seems the more I try to work on myself (and have eg a balanced emotional life) the less I succeed… what can I do?