Love and relationships

In one of Brooke’s podcasts, she mentions to love your partner without any expectation. If our partner is not doing something whether it’s chores or making effort in a relationship in ways that are important to you, I do understand it’s our thoughts that create resentment not the action itself. However, if this is so, does this mean not having any standards for a relationship with a partner as we have no expectations of our partner at all? Isn’t our choice of partner – one with compatibility and chemistry – one of the most important life decisions?