model help

C- ice cream
T- the kids get to have ice and I don’t
F- deprived
A-eat the ice cream
R- Feel like dog doo & disappointed in myself

C- ice cream
T- ?????
F- content not having ice cream
A – Dish the ice cream without putting the spoon in my mouth
R- not bloated & proud

What thought can I put in the “T” line to make it true? Everything I try in the T line seems meh/doesn’t feel true.