I’ve been doing models on my relationship with my mother in law. I want to feel unconditional love towards her, but I haven’t found a thought that lets me feel love for her when she tends to be upset/ guilt tripping me and others often. When I feel guilty for ‘not doing enough’, I withdrawal because I hate feeling like I’m in trouble. As I change my thinking, I haven’t been able to love her as she is, and not feel guilty, so I don’t know how to act. I can protect myself by withdrawing, but then she is more upset and I still feel guilty for not spending enough time with her. Any insight on models for passive aggressive people/ feeling unconditional love I would really appreciate it!