I’ve been struggling in my marriage for a few years now and can’t seem to get motivated to do the work to feel better. I’ve noticed this as a habit with myself, I avoid doing things when they seem impossible or too hard. I understand that my human brain is designed to conserve energy and avoid pain. I also understand that the other side of my effort will feel amazing for myself and my family, so why doesn’t that motivate me to take action? How do I rewire this pattern and get motivated?